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July 11, 2006

NLP, the Circle of Excellence and helping a friend

NLPu defines anchoring as the "process of associating an internal response with some external environmental or mental trigger."

It works like Pavlov and the dogs: Someone is ringing a bell and the doggie knows that this is the sign that his meal is served. The saliver is running, basically.

Everybody is anchored to certain concepts - you see a red traffic light in front of you and know that you have to stop (well, not necessarily in Malaysia, but this is another story, hehe).

Others could be the boss that scolds you constantly, and instinctively, you dig in your heels, when you hear him or her approaching.

A third example is music - how many times do you hear a song that makes you happy, or other songs that make you sad, the moment you hear the tune starting? "Darling, remember this song, this was the one playing when you kissed me the first time?" - I guess you get the hint.

Now, Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) is using the concept of anchoring in a manner that helps us to have strength when we need strength. This can be any time or when you want to have strength. Because, and this is a big because - we are also very often anchored to something negative. Think of your boss, your ex-lover, the cheating husband, the company that fired you, the area where you got robbed, the taxis that cheat you all the time, the shop that sold you the bad product. Basically, the list is endless.

More reasonable is to think of stage fright, fear of interviews, performance appraisals, the boss is calling you, your client is always angry when you deliver late or the cockroach that you cannot stand. Do you get headache, butterflies in your stomach just thinking of it?

These are negative anchors in our life!!

There are plenty of tools available in NLP to get into a state or a mindset to make you feel better when you enter situations that need powerful strength.

My favourite is called Circle of Excellence. A friend of mine, who is studying in the UK and has been invited for an interview has asked me to give her a tip on how to get rid of her nervousness. I wrote the mail and then thought that this is useful to be published here as well. So here it goes.

"Imagine a Circle in front of you, in any size you like. Colour it if you want, let it circling (mine is blue and is circling around like a ring of fire), put in noise or songs that you like - anything that makes it beautiful and very appealing to you.

Next, put in all the resources you need - for me, I remember times, when I presented and was successful, the times I succeeded with my NLP and coaching, times when I was successful in other areas. Something that made me feel good, basically.

So, what I am doing is putting in the right resources - confidence, power, energy, passion. This works for me.

Then I am stepping in - it is like a bath full of powerful solutions. I then really imagine something like a shower of power and resourcefulness and enjoy the feeling. Standing taller and stronger and really enjoy the feeling.

Initially, I put in one resources, such as confidence, then power, then, whatever I want. I repeat the process when required, until I really feel good - stepping out, getting more resources, stepping in etc.

In the beginning, it took me a while to really get started with it and feel the power- everytime I needed it, I had to imagine the ring by standing somewhere and stepping into it. Now, I just need to imagine a blue circling ring of fire in front of me. That's it for me - it works and I change immediately.

It might sound funny, but this is what is anchoring in NLP. Pavlov for beginners. We are all anchored to something in our life and more often than not, it is negative. So why not create something that is positive?"

Tell me - was this useful?

Posted by Andreas at July 11, 2006 05:42 PM

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NLP is powerful beyond our imagination

Posted by: Self Hypnosis at August 12, 2007 01:03 AM

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