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July 27, 2006

Getting out of bad moods

A mood is a State of Mind, according to NLP. So you can chose your mood, any time you like. Most of us will not chose to be sad, or doubtful, purposely. Well, may be sometimes you need to, or it is wise to do as, for instance, it is not good to be happy during a burial, or when something really bad happened.

But mostly, I wouldn't get up in the morning and say - "Okay, today I want to be sad the whole day." Or angry. Instead, I chose to be what I want to be throughout the day and I be it. Professional, focussed, etc. In between, I can chose a different state of mind, when required. Like, when an employee comes to me and shares some grievances.

I developed a certain routine to get into the State that I want. One is my own personal Circle of Excellence - being in a state of excellence is one wise way to do. Moreover, it is driven by my own internal desire.

I am also very much dependent on music - aren't we all? I grew up with music, hung around plenty of amateur bands when I still lived in Germany and always, always, always sang along great songs - to the dismay of my friends, or now, kid and wife, mostly totally out of tune. But music is so easy to bring up feelings, and memories. And I use it every time I need it. I am totally anchored to it, as we say in NLP.

I remember times, when I was sad in Germany, for certain reasons. May be my girlfriend broke up with me, or I had bad results in school, or wass simply in a bad mood for no reasons at all. I actually had a ritual to get me out of there. Starting with sad music, going really down into a miserable mood, and then, slowly, building up the rock. Faster and faster and dancing and singing along. I remember that one of the songs that I listened to was Queen's "Don't Stop Me Now". It was one of the last pieces that I played, when I was already high up in the air again. The feeling of no one can stop me. Even now, when I listened to the song, I still feel the drive, the memories flooding back and it makes me feel great!

Even today, I still have my songs to wake me up, prepare me for conferences, meetings or difficult calls. I won't tell you which songs, because there are many, from old times and new times, from popular to hard rock or alternative. But it is amazing to just listen to the music, groove along and feel reaaaaaal good in it.

Posted by Andreas at July 27, 2006 10:15 AM

Comments

The number of comments shows two possibilities:
1) quality,
2) no ppl reading.

What I mean is, it's a good intention to introduce NLP to ppl but if you can give a real example or talk about it in a layman's language, something common ppl can understand, it will be more effective and interesting.

Posted by: Nizar at August 1, 2006 12:05 PM

Perhaps you could mention NLP without actually writing "NLP" every time u write. I mean, the contents of it. Relate it to ppl's lives. That would be more interesting to the readers. Maybe you could talk about the brain system, why some nations are more developed, which part of their culture that makes them what they are.

Posted by: Nizar at July 31, 2006 09:42 AM

I notice that you get less/no comment as ur blog inclines more toward NLP, something I think you r quite obsessed with. Reminds me of a friend who did Omega Trend.

Andreas:
Well observed. But am I obsessed? Or observant as well? Or awakening? Or just writing for me? But isn't the quality of the comments what makes up for the reduced number?

Posted by: Nizar at July 28, 2006 09:06 AM

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